Some marriages do not last for long in bliss.Some couples are not meant for each other, and it may take a while to realize that. Spouses should separate and remain friends.Sometimes, spouses, have kids who they must consider when thinking of a divorce. Couples should opt for mediation to prevent animosity. Mediation takes place in five stages.
The mediator discusses the process of mediation in this stage. The mediator will be interested in the background of both of you and the situation leading to the decision for divorce. You should be prepared to ask questions where you need some clarification. Aim to communicate effectively so that the mediator knows what you want so that you can get optimal results for both you and your spouse. Let the mediator know why you disagree with your spouse.
The next stage is where the mediator gathers information. You do not disclose everything in the first stage. At this point, you want the mediator to be fully aware of everything, therefore, carry documents supporting your financial situation.If some of the information needed for effective resolution is not available, the mediator can assist you on how to get it. Also, during this stage, discussions may lead up to the basic rules of an amicable settlement.
The mediator asks what both of you want the results to be. It would help if you told the mediator why you are interested in the results you want. Your expected outcome enables the mediator to know where to begin. The mediator will examine each person’s interests and seek a resolution that serves most of the major interests. They all want what is best for their kids They may have the same desires but have different ways of fulfilling them Couples can also talk to the mediator in the same session where each in listens to the other.The downside of separate sessions is the costs involved and time spent because whatever one spouse says, the mediator will repeat to the other in another session.
When you have everything in the open, you can start negotiating. The main agenda if the mediator is to have a solution that addresses both spouses’ needs. The spouses have their interests, but they may need to compromise. The mediation does not guarantee to fulfill every interest. The mediator should ensure every spouse ends up with some interests met.
Evidence of the agreement is in writing but the mediator. The court should have the written agreement to facilitate an amicable divorce. A divorcing couple should have lawyers to serve their interests during the mediation process.